How many times a day do you think about the things that have gone wrong or the things that you don’t have? I think we are all guilty of saying things like today was a bad day at work when right now we really should be saying thank god I have a job. Maybe you tend to wallow in the fact that you are alone while all your friends are coupled up when we should be looking at all the people we do have around us so that we see that we will never be alone. Whatever it is that is ailing you, change your frame of mind and I promise you, you will change your life.
It’s inevitable that we will face negative things in our lives but if we try our best to spin them and find the positive side of the negative, we could just see those things completely different. In turn, we might even see our lives or our current state of being in a whole new light.
Personally, I decided a few weeks ago to change my outlook on things and see if it could make a difference in my mood. My main motivation for this mind shift was because I began to notice that I was coming home from work every day feeling completely drained from the frustration of the day. This was directly affecting other aspects of my life too and I decided that if I didn’t like the way I was feeling, I was going to do something about it. So I changed my way of thinking and the way I saw the things in my life and I have to stay, it’s made a world of difference.
I took a long hard look at my work day and realized that my frustration was coming from my competitive nature (of course!). I was feeling overwhelmed with the amount of things on my plate, working later and coming in earlier than others, feeling completely stressed out while other people seemed to be on cruise control and basically spending way too much time worrying about the people around me when I should be focused on myself. I was so busy trying to keep up or one up everyone else, that I was miserable. So I changed my way of thinking. I decided to focus completely on me. If I wanted to compete, I had to compete with myself and try to one up my past performances. I will say that it is not easy and at times I catch myself slipping back into my old ways but I am really trying.
Overall, I feel much more productive and energized about my work. I'm getting more done because I'm taking the time that I was spending worrying about what others were or were not doing and using it to complete the things on my to do list. The bitterness that I used to feel when I realized I was coming in earlier or working later than others is replaced with a sense of accomplishment for all that I got done. This new outlook has even rubbed off on other areas of my life. By focusing on myself and my own performance at work, I see that I have to keep that mentality when dealing with friends, family and social life too. All I can be is the best version of myself and the person that I want to be so I can’t let other people’s judgements get to me. People can think whatever they want about me but it's my life and they don't get to have an opinion. I also can't let jealousy over what I don’t have distract me from all the wonderful things I do have. Every day I try to think of all the things in my life that I'm thankful for and let that drive me rather than complaining about things that I want but don't have yet. When a challenge comes my way, I have to think I got this instead of all the reasons why I won’t be able to. Ultimately, I wanted to be happier about the life I was living. I wanted to see just how great it is rather than always obsessing over the negative aspects. By altering my thoughts, I think I’m on to something J
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it work worth the effort." - Herm Albright
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